At some point in life, we might be asking this question,
Why do I always meet the wrong person?
Why do people always treat me this way?
Why do I keep facing the same struggles?
All of these questions always come when we feel lost, hurt, or frustrated.
Sometimes, no, I think almost all the time, we place the blame outside ourselves, on circumstances, on the people who hurt us, or on life itself for being unfair. And we see ourselves as victims.
But have we ever taken a step back to reflect?
Have we taken the time to sit with ourselves? To question why we keep encountering the same challenges, the same disappointments, the same heartbreaks?Have we considered that maybe these repeated experiences are not random, but instead, signs?
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The patterns
I started noticing patterns in my own life. Situations that felt familiar. Challenges that seemed to repeat themselves. Mistakes that I seemed to make over and over again.But there was one moment when I deeply understood that these experiences weren’t just coincidences. They were signs from Allah SWT, pointing to something He wanted me to learn. They were nudges toward something I had been avoiding within myself.
Maybe the struggles I faced were trying to tell me something that I needed to confront, understand, or change.
Life's struggles as lessons
We will always be placed in situations that reflect what we need to learn. Sometimes, we blame others for how they treat us, but we fail to see how we have allowed that treatment to continue. And we feel stuck in a cycle of failure but never question whether it is our own mindset, habits, or fears holding us back.
I, too, had to learn this the hard way. I used to wonder why I always felt drained and why people kept crossing the lines I thought were obvious. But the reality was, I had never actually drawn those lines. I expected others to respect boundaries I had never truly set. And until I took responsibility for that, nothing changed.
The moment I finally learned to say,
Enough. I deserve better than this.
Everything shifted. The same situations stopped repeating.
Life teaches us what we need to heal
This is how life works, it repeats the lesson until we learn from it.
Sometimes, we are meant to learn self-love. Other times, we are meant to learn forgiveness, letting go, or trust.
Whatever the case, the challenges we face are reflections of what we need to heal within ourselves.
If we struggle with abandonment, life will keep placing us in situations where we fear being left behind until we learn that our worth is not defined by who stays or leaves.
If we struggle with self-doubt, we will keep encountering opportunities that push us to believe in ourselves until we finally do.
If we struggle with control, life will keep showing us how unpredictable things can be until we learn to surrender and trust the process.
The lessons are not meant to break us, but they are meant to shape us.
Breaking the cycle
So, if you find yourself stuck in the same situations, facing the same struggles, or asking the same questions, take a step back and ask yourself:
What is this trying to teach me?
What can I do differently this time?
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